The Breaths We Take

When you have children, moments are made in the breaths we take. The exhilaration and fear of watching their little tummies move up and down in the crib the first night when you place your hand gently on their chest to make absolutely sure they are still breathing. The excited gasp as we watch our children take their first steps. The exhale of relief when a high fever breaks. Holding our breaths as we watch our son or daughter shoot a goal or play a solo or recite a speech. Panting as we push their first two-wheeler from behind, and loudly cheering as we watch them cross another milestone off the list.

No More Cleaning Excuses for my Tweens

It always amazes me just how much brownie batter can get into a drawer or the amount of hair gel that I find on a wall. Not to mention the petri dish our house becomes due to all the germs these girls bring into our house.
 
This puts me in a parenting pickle. I want my kids and their friends to spend time underneath my roof, but I don’t want to feel like I live in a fraternity house.
 
So, I made a deal with my daughters. Their friends are welcome here anytime, but they are responsible for cleaning up their messes. Always and without complaint.
 
Obviously, they don’t always clean up and there is always complaining, but the threat of no more hangouts usually will spur the process along.

Children Are Meant to be Unfinished

I am startled as I see her small body appear on the stairs again, stomping down step by step, avoiding my eyes. She holds a white laundry basket in her hand, and I bite my tongue as I watch it bump into the spindles on my staircase.
Her shoulder bumps into mine as she struggles to turn the corner, and the metaphor is not lost on me.
My relationship with my daughter is like an unfinished chore. Something you don’t want to deal with, but you know needs attention. I want her to be finished, now, so the petty arguments and fights can be done, and we can move on to the good stuff.

When Women Talk about Women In Front of Our Girls

The notion that women are caddy and petty to each other is nothing new, but I believe it has moved up a notch the last few months. In the past decade, women have advanced economically and educationally, seen improvements in sexual freedoms and access to health care, experienced political triumphs and increased business success; yet we still criticize individuals looks with such animosity.
And we do so in front of our girls.

Why This Prude Talks Embarrassing Stuff

I was lucky. My mom was strict and by good fortune I did not put myself in too many precarious situations. I often wonder what would have happened if I had a more serious boyfriend in high school. Would I be brave enough to ensure I used protection every time? Would I have walked into a Planned Parenthood to obtain birth control?
I am not sure of the answer, but I know both are more likely than me going to talk to my parents about it. Anything but that.

Slipping through My Fingers

I long to hold her back for just one more day, keep her small and uninformed and protected.

But she’s slipping through my fingers as rushes to grow up, a little more every day.

Gym Clothes and Participation Trophies

I think we want to pigeon-hole all the things that are wrong in this world on the decisions of someone else, usually a parent. And while sometimes it may be accurate, oftentimes, it’s just a rash judgment on something you know little or nothing about.

Guest Post: Teaching Kids to Speak Up — Even to Their Friends

When my daughter was in fourth grade, I received an email from another mother.

“I just wanted to say how grateful I am that our girls are friends. A 5th grader started picking on Joy on the playground, and your daughter stood up for her. You are really raising her right!”

We Need Circle Breakers

I think about how awkward it felt for me to approach a group of parents, a group where we all shared a common interest in our daughters’ soccer team. And then I think of how difficult it must feel when there are true differences between you and other people, when the circles seem impenetrable because they are made of steel.

The Tightrope of Self Esteem

It is a tight-rope I walk with my daughters. I want them to feel empowered, beautiful and accepted as they are, but I know that self-confidence is more than receiving compliments. Learning to accept and manage criticism, whether constructive or malicious, is an important life skill, yet I feel crushed between the desire for honesty and the motherly instinct to protect them from pain, whether from me or someone else.

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