It is that time of the year for me. The time when I eagerly count off days with a giant red marker on the calendar. The time when I have a little bit more of a spring in my step. The time when I see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Yes, my friends, I have a Girls Weekend coming up.
This year’s trip is a little bit sweeter than others for a variety of reasons. First, I have been holed up in my house for months due to the three Vs: vortex, vomiting and viruses. Second, I recently moved, so I have not been getting as much girl-time as I normally do, and I feel deprived. And lastly, I have not had a proper girls’ weekend for two full years (granted, I went to Italy, but that was with a boy….just not the same.)
I think Girls Weekends (or at the minimum multiple Girls Nights Out) are the most important thing moms can do to be better moms. Seriously. I am not kidding.
When someone whose children are in high school tells me that they have never been on a girls’ trip, it blows my mind. How is that even possible?
And then I usually list all the reasons why I think they are so important, including (but not limited to):
- Laughing so hard that someone wets their pants because of their bladder control issues from natural child-birth
- Having the ability to shut the bathroom door in your hotel room and no one actually barging in mid-stream to ask if they can play the iPad
- Staying up all night, but not because someone is vomiting
- Ordering that extra fruity drink because you’re not worried your child will wake you up at 6:30 a.m. asking for breakfast
- Dressing up for a night out without worrying your white pants may get a chocolate hand print on your bottom before you leave and don’t realize it (um, not that this has ever happened to me.)
Yes, it can be hard to leave your kids. Yes, it is hard to trust anyone, nonetheless the man who is supposed to be the other half of your parenting team or a grandparent who raised kids without iPads, to care for your children. And yes, as a working mom you may feel enormous guilt because you think you don’t spend enough time with your kids.
But if you are not getting away because of the reasons above, you’re just plain wrong.
In all honesty, though, Girls Weekends give moms the opportunity to recharge and remember what their life was like B.C. (before children.) It is not about what you do, where you go, or what you spend. The important thing is to get away from the rut that can be parenting and connect with the people who know what it’s like to be in the trenches.
By getting a little piece of yourself back — even for just 48 hours — it’s easier to give your energy to your family again. And doesn’t that make us all a little better at what we do?
So, do you need a girls weekend? Here’s five signs you may need to book one stat!
5. You hear the music from Frozen and your eye starts twitching. You may also start experiencing instant heartburn.
4. You are stepping on Lego pieces in the middle of the night and not even feeling the pain.
3. You yelled at the invisible waiter at your daughter’s tea party because he didn’t get your order right.
2. You actually understand what Minecraft is about.
1. The last time you “got away” was when you locked yourself in the bathroom with a cocktail and People magazine’s Sexiest Man issue.
How many hours until my Girls Weekend starts? 834. But who’s counting?
Have you been able to get away for a girls weekend? Why do you think it’s important?